Alexadra is a queen! Two things I want to share here -- a reframe and an observation. The reframe: what if instead of running the calculation (i.e. overthinking!), you instead viewed your "hot takes" as opportunities to open up interesting and engaging conversations? So going forward, as soon as you're tempted to hit the delete button, you instead remind yourself, "This is worth saying. And I'm excited to see who resonates with it." You even close your Substack posts with "Tables Ready is an *open conversation* with my readers and a chance for me to get to know you too." (!!)
And then second, I couldn't help but think of this silencing/self-censorship as a form of self-abandonment. One of many ways we abandon ourselves to please others, be "the good girl," keep the peace, etc. Every time we do it we get a little further from ourselves -- I'd be curious to see if speaking your truth helps you feel more connected to yourself over time!
Alexadra is a queen! Two things I want to share here -- a reframe and an observation. The reframe: what if instead of running the calculation (i.e. overthinking!), you instead viewed your "hot takes" as opportunities to open up interesting and engaging conversations? So going forward, as soon as you're tempted to hit the delete button, you instead remind yourself, "This is worth saying. And I'm excited to see who resonates with it." You even close your Substack posts with "Tables Ready is an *open conversation* with my readers and a chance for me to get to know you too." (!!)
And then second, I couldn't help but think of this silencing/self-censorship as a form of self-abandonment. One of many ways we abandon ourselves to please others, be "the good girl," keep the peace, etc. Every time we do it we get a little further from ourselves -- I'd be curious to see if speaking your truth helps you feel more connected to yourself over time!
Both points spot on Alison! Thank you for taking the time to read and to respond so thoughtfully!!!