Yep this is a modern life operating model problem not a personal failure of discipline. You’re doing the most logical thing within the operating system you are forced to participate in.
The monotony of parenthood is its own kind of exhaustion. I’m exhausted by all the physical energy that comes with being needed — but also by all the things I’m not doing in a day that I deeply want to do. The loss of that freedom is mentally draining.
Here to say A) all of this resonated with me deeply, and I am clawing back time wherever I can get it, even at the expense of my own rest, and B) I am thrilled not to be the only person who gets in trouble with their toddler because of overly “juicy” fruit.
Yes very much all of this. My husband and I both got stomach bugs this weekend and it was not good. Luckily our baby nanny came Sunday to help out. But of course on Monday when I am just starting to feel mildly better, my daughter (4) starts to feel unwell and given I was already staying home, I let her stay with me which means no real rest even though she sat and drew pictures quietly for a chunk of time. And then at dinner both kids wanted me and were crying while trying to latch onto me. The baby is only 17 months so logic with him and a 4 year old is not easy. But here I am exhausted but wired and couldn’t sleep and reading Substack (after deciding to stay up too late editing an upcoming article that surely could of waited). I think I felt so fried I needed something to calm the brain. Anyways, this was spot on.
Yep this is a modern life operating model problem not a personal failure of discipline. You’re doing the most logical thing within the operating system you are forced to participate in.
Pure survival!
The monotony of parenthood is its own kind of exhaustion. I’m exhausted by all the physical energy that comes with being needed — but also by all the things I’m not doing in a day that I deeply want to do. The loss of that freedom is mentally draining.
So true and well said. Something I didn’t anticipate as an expecting parent that is very very real!
Here to say A) all of this resonated with me deeply, and I am clawing back time wherever I can get it, even at the expense of my own rest, and B) I am thrilled not to be the only person who gets in trouble with their toddler because of overly “juicy” fruit.
The fact you used the words “gets in trouble” has me feel deeply seen 😂😂
Its called “revenge procrastination” and it’s so real, I think about it every night 💗
So real
Yes very much all of this. My husband and I both got stomach bugs this weekend and it was not good. Luckily our baby nanny came Sunday to help out. But of course on Monday when I am just starting to feel mildly better, my daughter (4) starts to feel unwell and given I was already staying home, I let her stay with me which means no real rest even though she sat and drew pictures quietly for a chunk of time. And then at dinner both kids wanted me and were crying while trying to latch onto me. The baby is only 17 months so logic with him and a 4 year old is not easy. But here I am exhausted but wired and couldn’t sleep and reading Substack (after deciding to stay up too late editing an upcoming article that surely could of waited). I think I felt so fried I needed something to calm the brain. Anyways, this was spot on.
Completely and totally relate to this decompress moment. Sounds like a wild few days… hang in there mama!
Reading this when I should be sleeping lol 😆 thank you 🙏🏽
enjoy your me time and thank you for spending some of it with me xx
The day you just described looks exactly like mine. Reading this when I should be sleeping and feeling very seen.
in this beautiful season of life together!